Keeping proper perspective about people and problems

Never let a problem to be solved become more important than the person to be loved.

Barbara Johnson


Loving others for who they are

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

Thomas Merton

Deeply implementing God’s motivations of love in our lives

There is growth incalculable to the human soul when it steps outside of itself and concerns itself with others. Since that is the major work of our Father in Heaven—to work joyously for the advancement and progression of others—how could we think to receive all that he has unless we implement deeply into our own lives his motivations of love, thereby truly becoming his sons and daughters?

Marion G. Romney, “Principles of Temporal Salvation,” Ensign, Apr 1981, 3

Crossing the chasm that lies between individuals

The “man of Christ” knows that only truth radiant with love can cross the chasm that lies between some individuals who are light-years apart, even though they live under the same roof.

….He is conscious of the past and present injustices, but he knows that real remedies are to be found in contemporary Christian compassion, and not in compensatory justice.

He knows that in leadership cleverness is not as important as content, that charisma and dash are not as vital as character and doctrine.

Neal A. Maxwell, “The Man of Christ,” Ensign, May 1975, 101

Learning to reclassify others

A hint from Elder Maxwell about forgiving:

In our families, in the Church, and in other relationships, will we stop letting yesterday hold tomorrow hostage? Will we reclassify others, knowing that forgetting is part of forgiving?
Neal A. Maxwell, “The Precious Promise,” Ensign, Apr 2004, 42

I suppose that reclassifying involves seeing others as God sees them, not merely as we have believed them to be.